I hope your day is going great, because mine is going perfect! So much so that it put me in the happiest mood…to make a great announcement! Some of you may be shocked, while I know others who will start tearing up, simply overjoyed. Childbearing is such an incredibly beautiful experience…
I bet I almost got you ahaha… I just felt in a mood to share one of the happiest experiences in my life: my pregnancy with my first child.
How can I say it? It was a pretty hectic roller coaster of emotions, moods and extras! To be brutally honest, I had a love/hate relationship with the whole being pregnant thing.
Let me guess, your first burning question: how did you know you were pregnant?
We’ve all been through the “pregnancy scare” right? when we count the days to our next period with the biggest anxiety load fearing that there might be a baby on the way, and we make the victory dance when we spot the stain, y’all know what I’m talking about!! if you don’t shame on you! lol, I’m just kidding.
Well, I always thought that the day I will find out I’m pregnant would be either a “pregnancy scare” leading to a “pregnancy? yes!” or us trying for a baby and getting the good news after a missed period. It was actually the opposite of both: an unexpected discovery after a stress-free wait for the next period.
What actually happened…
Ok enough with my verbiage. One day before my expected period, I asked babe to bring me a sandwich, and he made me one of my favorite with strawberry preserve. I was enjoying the whole thing until I got a sickening feeling of onion in my mouth (keep in mind I can’t stand the feeling of onion, it’s been like that since I was a kid); it drove me straight to the toilet, and made me super nauseous for the rest of the day. I got super pissed at him for bringing me a sandwich in a plate that had onions, and he was so confused, because there was no trace of onion anywhere, he just kept apologizing regardless, and even brought me some milk. But nothing seemed to stop the sick feeling. The next day, there was no sign of any period coming, not even my usual cramping, moodiness, and fatigue. And Oh,I had one of the weirdest pregnancy dreams (story for another day). So the next morning, I sent babe to the pharmacy to get a test…the rest is history!
Yes, I said it before that it was a love/hate relationship, a roller coaster, and all. But really, it was the best thing that ever happened to me! The simple thought of carrying a human being inside is just surreal, and no amount of sickness, stress, or hormone burst can take that away.
What I loved the most were our intimate moments, when I would talk to my baby and he would respond with kicks, and rolls…priceless!!
Plus, I felt a sense of maturity, as I decided the new responsibility attached to being a mom. I learned that my life had to change for the best, there was no more making excuses for what seemed beyond reach, because I had to start training to lead by example. And of course, I enjoyed the preggo glow, the boobiliciousness, the free pass to all sort of food cravings, the extended lazy days lol, and the overwhelming attention and affection .
Let me take you through some of my most memorable preggo days…
3 months: My graduation
6 months: My “maternity fashion” debuts, ahah!
7 Months: It’s getting real, belly button poked out!
8 months: M.B.A baby loves school
…nesting is starting with a kick of energy
Stepping into 9 months like…
…and my “ready to pop” face
Every pregnancy is different, but certain things are just a staple
If you are my preggo twin, here some of the things you may experience.
[All-day] Morning sickness.
You can try a wide range of home remedies. My case was pretty severe, to the point where it needed medical intervention. Always have an open and transparent talk with your doctor. That’s the only way for yo to really know your best and SAFEST options!
I felt it all throughout the pregnancy, except around the end, when I had a sudden burst of energy when I entered the “nesting” phase. The best way you can cope with it is by listening to your body. Take several naps through the day, even if they only last 15 minutes…or 3 hours! Make adjustments in your schedule: you can put some activities on hold (based on their level of importance in your life) for you to resume them after birth. It will leave you room to rest.
Did you know? Experiencing heartburn during pregnancy means that you are carrying a hairy baby? Well, it seems to be pretty accurate, because my CJ was born with a head full of hair. Here again, I will advice you to talk to your doctor. Mine gave me the OK for heartburn relieving medication, to cope with the discomfort and the sickness that it was triggering. And drinking milk also helped!
Food craving, they’re a classic! Get set and EAT.
Anxiety during pregnancy is totally normal! You will be flooded by a bunch of questions on your ability to handle pregnancy, your changing body, your unexplainable emotional shenanigans, fear of child birth, motherhood. That’s enough to drive one crazy! And we don’t want that for you, baby needs a sane mama. There are simple steps you can take to help ease it out.
- Get prepared: Anxiety will leave you powerless. Regain your power by documenting yourself on what seems unclear, uncertain, unfamiliar. If you can, take some birth classes. Better yet, try caring for a new born if you have friend or relatives with babies.
- Face your fears: You cannot change what you don’t acknowledge. Identify the fears burning your head: are you scared of having a c-section? What if your water breaks in the middle of nowhere? Is the pain going to be unbearable? Write down what it is that’s actually freaking you out and tackle them one at the time. Voice them out, either to yourself, to your partner, a friend, relative, or your doctor.
- Unplug: Take time to relax, meditate and breathe. A bowl of fresh air goes a long way. You can take a short walk around the block, jog a bit if you are at that level, or go hike a mountain when you get the opportunity. I remember coming down from Kennesaw Mountain top refreshed as if I had literally left my worries up there. Read, pray, sing, dance, do it all! That’s the time for you to be extra as you feel!
- Rest, Rest and Rest! Lack of sleep will aggravate anxiety, so rest. It will improve your mood, reveal your radiance, and help you make some reserve before baby comes (trust me you will miss your sleep)
- Focus on the end result: I remember coming across a Pinterest post saying “No matter what the process, pregnancy is meant to come to an end” Boy oh boy, this post changed my life! Whenever I would start feeling anxious about labor, I kept it as a reminder and my fear sort of vanished, you should try. Keep in mind the reason why you decided to go through it; at the end of it all, you will get to meet your little bundle of joy, grab and kiss hi/hers precious cheeks, hands, thighs, and toes…visualize yourself holding that precious baby.
That closes today’s post! Thank you for tuning in, I hope you enjoyed a good fun and informative rad. Please leave me your feedback, and don’t hesitate to post your questions and/or personal experience highlights on the comment section. Stay blessed lovelies!