THERE IS A BABY BAKING IN MOMMY’S OVEN: MY PREGNANCY JOURNEY

Hey lovelies,

I hope your day is going great, because mine is going perfect! So much so that it put me in the happiest mood…to make a great announcement! Some of you may be shocked, while I know others who will start tearing up, simply overjoyed. Childbearing is such an incredibly beautiful experience…

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I bet I almost got you ahaha… I just felt in a mood to share one of the happiest experiences in my life: my pregnancy with my first child.

How can I say it? It was a pretty hectic roller coaster of emotions, moods and extras! To be brutally honest, I had a love/hate relationship with the whole being pregnant thing.

Let me guess, your first burning question: how did you know you were pregnant?

We’ve all been through the “pregnancy scare” right? when we count the days to our next period with the biggest anxiety load fearing that there might be a baby on the way, and we make the victory dance when we spot the stain, y’all know what I’m talking about!! if you don’t shame on you! lol, I’m just kidding.

 

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Well, I always thought that the day I will find out I’m pregnant would be either a “pregnancy scare” leading to a “pregnancy? yes!” or us trying for a baby and getting the good news after a missed period. It was actually the opposite of both: an unexpected discovery after a stress-free wait for the next period.

What actually happened…

Ok enough with my verbiage. One day before my expected period, I asked babe to bring me a sandwich, and he made me one of my favorite with strawberry preserve. I was enjoying the whole thing until I got a sickening feeling of onion in my mouth (keep in mind I can’t stand the feeling of onion, it’s been like that since I was a kid); it drove me straight to the toilet, and made me super nauseous for the rest of the day. I got super pissed at him for bringing me a sandwich in a plate that had onions, and he was so confused, because there was no trace of onion anywhere, he just kept apologizing regardless, and even brought me some milk. But nothing seemed to stop the sick feeling. The next day, there was no sign of any period coming, not even my usual cramping, moodiness, and fatigue. And Oh,I had one of the weirdest pregnancy dreams (story for another day).  So the next morning, I sent babe to the pharmacy to get a test…the rest is history!

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Yes, I said it before that it was a love/hate relationship, a roller coaster, and all. But really, it was the best thing that ever happened to me! The simple thought of carrying a human being inside is just surreal, and no amount of sickness, stress, or hormone burst can take that away.

What I loved the most were our intimate moments, when I would talk to my baby and he would respond with kicks, and rolls…priceless!!

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Plus, I felt a sense of maturity, as I decided the new responsibility attached to being a mom. I learned that my life had to change for the best, there was no more making excuses for what seemed beyond reach, because I had to start training to lead by example. And of course, I enjoyed the preggo glow, the boobiliciousness, the free pass to all sort of food cravings, the extended lazy days lol, and the overwhelming attention and affection .

Let me take you through some of my most memorable preggo days…

3 months: My graduation

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6 months: My “maternity fashion” debuts, ahah!

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7 Months: It’s getting real, belly button poked out!

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8 months: M.B.A baby loves school

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…nesting is starting with a kick of energy

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Stepping into 9 months like…

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…and my “ready to pop” face

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Every pregnancy is different, but certain things are just a staple

If you are my preggo twin, here some of the things you may experience.

[All-day] Morning sickness.

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You can try a wide range of home remedies. My case was pretty severe, to the point where it needed medical intervention. Always have an open and transparent talk with your doctor. That’s the only way for yo to really know your best and SAFEST options!


[Intense] Fatigue

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I felt it all throughout the pregnancy, except around the end, when I had a sudden burst of energy when I entered the “nesting” phase. The best way you can cope with it is by listening to your body. Take several naps through the day, even if they only last 15 minutes…or 3 hours! Make adjustments in your schedule: you can put some activities on hold (based on their level of importance in your life) for you to resume them after birth. It will leave you room to rest.


Recurring Heartburns

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Did you know? Experiencing heartburn during pregnancy means that you are carrying a hairy baby? Well, it seems to be pretty accurate, because my CJ was born with a head full of hair. Here again, I will advice you to talk to your doctor. Mine gave me the OK for heartburn relieving medication, to cope with the discomfort and the sickness that it was triggering. And drinking milk also helped!


 

Food craving, they’re a classic! Get set and EAT.


Anxiety

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Anxiety during pregnancy is totally normal! You will be flooded by a bunch of questions on your ability to handle pregnancy, your changing body, your unexplainable emotional shenanigans, fear of child birth, motherhood. That’s enough to drive one crazy! And we don’t want that for you, baby needs a sane mama.  There are simple steps you can take to help ease it out.

  • Get prepared: Anxiety will leave you powerless. Regain your power by documenting yourself on what seems unclear, uncertain, unfamiliar. If you can, take some birth classes. Better yet, try caring for a new born if you have friend or relatives with babies.
  • Face your fears: You cannot change what you don’t acknowledge. Identify the fears burning your head: are you scared of having a c-section? What if your water breaks in the middle of nowhere? Is the pain going to be unbearable? Write down what it is that’s actually freaking you out and tackle them one at the time. Voice them out, either to yourself, to your partner, a friend, relative, or your doctor.
  • Unplug: Take time to relax, meditate and breathe. A bowl of fresh air goes a long way. You can take a short walk around the block, jog a bit if you are at that level, or go hike a mountain when you get the opportunity. I remember coming down from Kennesaw Mountain top refreshed as if I had literally left my worries up there. Read, pray, sing, dance, do it all! That’s the time for you to be extra as you feel!
  • Rest, Rest and Rest! Lack of sleep will aggravate anxiety, so rest. It will improve your mood, reveal your radiance, and help you make some reserve before baby comes (trust me you will miss your sleep)
  • Focus on the end result: I remember coming across a Pinterest post saying “No matter what the process, pregnancy is meant to come to an end” Boy oh boy, this post changed my life! Whenever I would start feeling anxious about labor, I kept it as a reminder and my fear sort of vanished, you should try. Keep in mind the reason why you decided to go through it; at the end of it all, you will get to meet your little bundle of joy, grab and kiss hi/hers precious cheeks, hands, thighs, and toes…visualize yourself holding that precious baby.

 

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That closes today’s post! Thank you for tuning in, I hope you enjoyed a good fun and informative rad. Please leave me your feedback, and don’t hesitate to post your questions and/or personal experience highlights on the comment section. Stay blessed lovelies!

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AND HE TURNED ONE!!!

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Hi Loves! Last month, my sweet baby C.J turned ONE! Yes!!! Given our busy schedules and all the stuff we were dealing with, his dad and I decided to wait until late February to throw him a decent first birthday party, which actually happened to be a combined party for him and his dad, since dad is a member of the  #FebruaryGang lol.

Well, on Sunday mama took matters in her own hands and played “Event planner”. Actually, she started way before Sunday!

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Since we were celebrating the men in my life, I picked a theme centered on “Gentlemen”, because that’s just what they are: my gentlemen!

What comes in mind when you think about gentlemen? Well I see: helper, kind, polite, elegant, clean, bow tie, polished, mustache, etc

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With that in mind, I went ahead and researched budget friendly decorations and accessories with a Black/Gold color scheme to give the whole party decor a touch of sophistication.

Here’s what I used:

As for the highlight of any kids party, I am talking about the cake, I had the pleasure to work along side Mrs Darcy Lynn from Cakes by Darcy, a super cute bakery nestled in the heart of Roswell. The ordering process was super smooth, and I was so happy to FINALLY find someone who understood my vision instantly without asking me thousands of questions lol! Also, they helped me greatly price-wise, which was a plus, given that the budget was not unlimited!

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And Oh?! Did I mention that she loved my design so much that she actually made it a template?? I was so honored!

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As you can see, the cake is kinda tying the whole theme together, marrying the black/gold color scheme with the gentlemen theme. And here is a sneak peek at the party!
Be mindful that It might get you hungry!

 

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A word of advice, make sure you plan some good entertainment for the kids to stay busy and active. For us, CJ’s ball pit did the trick…until they all crashed into his room ahaha!

 

I hope you loved it, thank you for reading!

Please leave me your feedback below and few design ideas.


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Also I’m curious to know? what was the theme on your child’s first birthday? did you include any games and other entertainment?

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The 3 C’s of Mummy-ing

Hi loves, here I want to share a little bit of my not so thorough “expertise” on what I like to call “mummy-ing”, the art of being a mummy. This goes out to my fellow moms, moms-to-be, and any body taking care of a child. Around this time last year, I gave birth to the most amazing, sweet and precious baby boy. MY CJ. The first year with him has been one heck of a roller coaster, lol! Mainly given that his daddy and I had to learn pretty much EVERYTHING by ourselves; and this is not a complain, rather I’m expressing a sense of pride in that huge accomplishment on our parts!


 

From what I have learned, raising a child takes a lot, a lot of trials and error, a lot of dedication and a lot of patience. It is truly a journey…but a very enjoyable and rewarding one. So far, I feel like it all comes down to what I call “the 3 C’s of mummy-ing”: Communication, Consistency, and….you guessed it Cuddles!

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screen-shot-2017-01-05-at-2-52-12-amOften times, people think that they can only start to really communicate with little ones when they start to exhibit signs of spoken language. But the reality is the complete opposite. Matter fact, babies are communicating beings from their early moments… inside their mamas. Yes! And that’s why some experts actually recommend talking, reading, singing, and praying with your baby while still pregnant. Take it from my experience, it will even help you anticipate your child’s personality as you will see the way he/she (or they) reacts to certain types of music, or certain voices, tempos etc. It will help you know what seems to get your child pumped up, and what seems to soothe him… bottom-line: communication with your bundle of joy sets the tone for your upcoming relationship, and it is best to establish that cornerstone from the very early days.

Even more fascinating, some experts argue that prenatal communication actually paves the way for speech development a little later down the road.

“Infants are learning and tuning into the speech patterns of their first exposed language(s) earlier than was originally thought (…)This may suggest the importance of the mother not only to talk during pregnancy but to continue to talk to her newborn from the moment of birth to help facilitate language development” says Melissa Wexler Gurfein, a New York City’s Speech Pathologist.

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Then of course, once the baby’s out, the fun begins, lol! It becomes more of a two-ways communication. Although baby language cannot always be understood by all, just a little bit of effort and patience will help you uncover a lot about what they want to tell you. They will use crying to communicate their needs to you, eye contacts, gestures, facial expressions, mama you name it! When you pay close attention, you will notice that some are a response of something you may have said or infer to them. These are the basis of communication. Once you both master that stage, it just expands for the best, as the first vocal sounds come out…the first “dada” or “mama” or “naah”, and before you know it you might hear a sweet “I love you mama” (Not there yet, but it’s just a matter of time  )

One very key thing to understand is that communicating thoughts and ideas is not a skill that the children are born with. Just as motherhood is a learning experience for you, so is the art of self-expression.

 

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What communication actually does: it gives the kids clear guidance on what is expected from them, as well as a roadmap on how to get to a more familiar, and enjoyable environment. Not only that, it gives them a safe and healthy platform to express their feelings, to build their self-esteem, and learn the core values that should make them great adults tomorrow! After all, isn’t that the ultimate goal of parenting, raising future responsible and well-versed adults?

Here are a few steps you can take (or reinforce) to ensure an effective communication with your little ones NO MATTER the age!

  • Use your ears before you use your mouth: LISTEN. Stopping whatever you were busy with to listen to them show them just how valuable they are to you! Even babies can feel it trust me! Give them some cues to show them you are indeed listening with words like:
    • Go ahead baby!
    • Tell me more
    • Wow!
    • For real baby? Then what happened?

The moment my baby CJ started to babble at around 5 months, whenever I would tell him “tell everything to mama” it was the funniest thing ever, you could just see his face light up, and he would go on and on and on.

 

  • Be a source of encouragement: give them some fuel with simple words like
    • I know you can handle it.
    • I am here to help you.
    • It’s alright baby

Like I said before, these really work at any age! When CJ started crawling at 6 months (yay I got a lil champ), he was going backwards. At first, I bet it was fun for him to see himself moving around and exploring every little corner he could get to. But then, the frustration started to sink in, when his favorite toy was a few feet ahead and every effort he would make just dragged him further away. And I noticed that wen his dad and I would say thing like, “Go ahead champ” “you can do it” he would raise his head and try to push forward! Like seriously, I am not kidding you guys! With a little bit of practice, it was just a matter of days until he found the way to crawl forward!

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  • Always show love…By that I mean say the words! “I love you!” Show them that playing with them, or singing their favorite songs is the most fun you can have in your day. And remember, there is no such thing as saying “I love you” too much, certainly not to your child!

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The other big C is Consistency. Whether we’re talking about sleep training, potty training, and all the other trainings around, consistency is the key! Did you know that babies get stressed too?  Yes, they do! And the effects can be pretty harmful both in the short and long run. (If you are interested in that topic, here is a good article about it). One of the biggest trigger of stress in humans in the unknown in its may forms ( the unexpected, uncertainty, mystery,  etc).

So it becomes obvious that a great way to alleviate stress in babies is by giving them a sense of familiarity in their day-to-day lives, and consistency is the key to creating routines, which in turn gives the kids that safety net I am talking about. As a matter of fact, routines give them a sense of security and help them develop self-discipline. About that! Let me tell you, one of the biggest gift you could give someone is teaching them discipline. Look around you, every successful person, at school, in the workplace, in the army…wherever has one trait that outshine everything else, and that is discipline!

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And here comes the part we all love! The last and favorite C of all: Cuddles! I don’t know about you but I’m a big fan, and my baby is the biggest fan, lol. At about 8 month of age, he started giving kisses randomly. And now whenever I say “give a kiss to mama” oh boy, it’s the highlight of my day!

And he likes to kiss his dada too! Now look at these two, OMG too much cuteness in one picture!!!

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Back to the serious stuff! For real, cuddling happens to be highly therapeutic: not only is it good for you mama (if you are like me), but it has far much greater benefits for your child. Some studies show that children who have been deprived of physical contact (hugs, kisses, cuddles) as babies tend to have lower levels of social-bonding hormones (Read more). So, now that you know, spoiiiiiiiillll them! After all that discipline talk, I think we all deserve that!

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I hope you enjoyed reading this, and please note that NOTHING mentioned in this blog can serve as either a diagnosis or a prescription. If you notice any cause for concern in your child behavior or development, call the doctor right away!

Please show your love, like comment and share. Plus, I would definitely love to know about your perspective on mummy-ing. What are the most important things for you when it comes to raising a child?  Leave a comment below, and if you haven’t done so yet,  subscribe and/or follow my blog to stay up-to date!

Love you all! ❌ ⭕️❌ ⭕️ 💋

 

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